Feel Good Restaurant Story - It Don't Cost Nothin' to be Nice

My brother Paul, the trailblazing oldest of ten, is a true road warrior. Since 1986, he has traveled 6,000+ miles in an RV from Alaska to Boston 8 times, usually with a couple of his beautiful Newfies in tow. During Paul’s trip at Thanksgiving, there were 3 of his Newfoundlands on board, including Boomer II, a new puppy named after our mom’s loyal dog of the same breed. I often tell Paul that his tales from the road would make a great reality show (Survivor RV?). He and his boys have survived some incredible endurance tests, including below zero, three dog nights, stuck in blizzards in some very remote areas. He’s often been at the mercy of strangers while stranded, waiting for parts to arrive from thousands of miles away to repair his rig. Knowing Paul, I think he likes the excitement, the edginess, and the risk involved in not knowing what’s around the corner. Part of the allure is the uncertainty of the road, and the challenge to be resourceful and resilient when tested.

As readers of my blog know, Paul has met some great people during his travels, and he often shares his stories with me. One of those people is Linda Akers, a Newfoundland breeder, who Paul became friends with while riding the LifeCycle at an Alaska fitness club. It’s only fitting that Linda is tied into this post because her husband, Charlie Akers, is a two-time Olympian, representing the USA Cross Country Ski Team at Squaw Valley in 1960, and the USA Biathlon Team at Innsbruck, Austria in 1964. Recently Linda shared a story about Bear Bryant, the legendary Alabama Football Coach with Paul, and Paul forwarded it to me. This story captures the core values that this blog and my book will represent, A Case for Human-to-Human Service and Civility.

Reprinted with permission from the author, Larry Burton:

At an Alabama Touchdown Club meeting in 1979, Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant told the following story:

I had just been named the new head coach at Alabama and was off in my old car down in South Alabama recruiting a prospect who was supposed to have been a pretty good player and I was havin’ trouble finding the place. Getting hungry I spied an old cinder block building with a small sign out front that simply said, “Restaurant.”

I pull up, go in and every head in the place turns to stare at me. Seems I’m the only white fella in the place. But the food smelled good so I skip a table and go up to a cement bar and sit. A big ole man in a tee shirt and cap comes over and says, “What do you need?” I told him I needed lunch and what did they have today? He says, “You probably won’t like it here, today we’re having chitlins, collared greens and black eyed peas with cornbread. I’ll bet you don’t even know what chitlins are, do you?” I looked him square in the eye and said, I’m from Arkansas, I’ve probably eaten a mile of them. Sounds like I’m in the right place. They all smiled as he left to serve me up a big plate. When he comes back he says, “You ain’t from around here then?”

I explain I’m the new football coach up in Tuscaloosa at the University and I’m here to find whatever that boy’s name was and he says, yeah I’ve heard of him, he’s supposed to be pretty good. And he gives me directions to the school so I can meet him and his coach. As I’m paying up to leave, I remember my manners and leave a tip, not too big to be flashy, but a good one and he told me lunch was on him, but I told him for a lunch that good, I felt I should pay. The big man asked me if I had a photograph or something he could hang up to show I’d been there. I was so new that I didn’t have any yet. It really wasn’t that big a thing back then to be asked for, but I took a napkin and wrote his name and address on it and told him I’d get him one and shook his hand and left.

I met the kid I was lookin’ for later that afternoon and I don’t remember his name, but do remember I didn’t think much of him when I met him. I had wasted a day, or so I thought. When I got back to Tuscaloosa late that night, I took that napkin from my shirt pocket and put it under my keys so I wouldn’t forget it. Back then I was excited that anybody would want a picture of me. The next day we found a picture and I wrote on it, “Thanks for the best lunch I’ve ever had.”

Now let’s go a whole buncha years down the road. Now we have black players at Alabama and I’m back down in that part of the country scouting an offensive lineman we sure needed. Y’all remember, (and I forget the name, but it’s not important to the story), well anyway, he’s got two friends going to Auburn and he tells me he’s got his heart set on Auburn too, so I leave empty handed and go on to see some others while I’m down there.

Two days later, I’m in my office in Tuscaloosa and the phone rings and it’s this kid who just turned me down, and he says, “Coach, do you still want me at Alabama?” And I said, Yes, I sure do. And he says OK, he’ll come. And I say, Well son, what changed your mind? And he said, “When my grandpa found out that I had a chance to play for you and said no, he pitched a fit and told me I wasn’t going nowhere but Alabama, and wasn’t playing for nobody but you. He thinks a lot of you and has ever since y’all met.” Well, I didn’t know his granddad from Adam’s house cat so I asked him who his granddaddy was and he said, “You probably don’t remember him, but you ate in his restaurant your first year at Alabama and you sent him a picture that he’s had hung in that place ever since. That picture’s his pride and joy and he still tells everybody about the day that Bear Bryant came in and had chitlins with him. My grandpa said that when you left there, he never expected you to remember him or to send him that picture, but you kept your word to him and to Grandpa, that’s everything. He said you could teach me more than football and I had to play for a man like you, so I guess I’m going to.”

I was floored. But I learned that the lessons my mama taught me were always right. It don’t cost nothin’ to be nice. It don’t cost nothin’ to do the right thing most of the time, and it costs a lot to lose your good name by breakin’ your word to someone.

When I went back to sign that boy, I looked up his Grandpa and he’s still running that place, but it looks a lot better now; and he didn’t have chitlins that day, but he had some ribs that woulda made Dreamland proud and I made sure I posed for a lot of pictures; and don’t think I didn’t leave some new ones for him, too, along with a signed football.

I made it clear to all my assistants to keep this story and these lessons in mind when they’re out on the road. If you remember anything else from me, remember this. It really doesn’t cost anything to be nice, and the rewards can be unimaginable.

I called the author of this tale, Larry Burton, seeking permission to share his story, and had a nice chat with him. Larry is an Alabama Alum and still writes for The Bleacher Report and Touchdown Alabama Magazine. He can be reached by email at finder@digitalexp.com.

At the conclusion of our conversation, I invited Larry to break bread with me the next time he visits Boston. Larry reciprocated by inviting me to raise a glass or 2 at his Tiki Bar in his backyard in Florida. My kinda guy… Sounds pretty good as it’s snowing here in Boston.

Many thanks to my brother Paul and all other readers who have been sharing the mission of my blog in their travels. I am grateful.


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