Have you ever invited someone to a party and their response is, “I’ll try to make it”? When a person responds to your invitation in this manner, how often does he or she actually show up? If your experience is like mine I’d say their chances of being at your party are slim and none. Why do you suppose that is?
In my opinion it has everything to do with the language we use. That little 3-letter word is what practically guarantees your invitee is a no show. In my book, TRY qualifies as a weak word. Whenever we say we are going to “try” to do something it diminishes our chances of doing it.
Ok, so I don’t have a lot of research to back up my point. I’m thinking it is just common sense; when we make a definite, emphatic statement we increase our chances of achieving our outcome.
How many people have you heard say, “I’m terrible with names”? I hear this constantly. What are the chances for a person who says this constantly to ever become good at remembering names? When I call people on this they will ask me, “why should I lie about it I am terrible with names”? I say okay, I get that, be honest with yourself and others but don’t say I’m terrible with names. Say something like, “I’m getting better at remembering names every day”.
Think about the weak words we utilize in our everyday conversations:
• I think
• Sort of
• Kind of
I’m sure you can come up with a variety of others!
Will you join me in the fight against weak words? For the next 30 days raise your awareness about the weak words you are using and eliminate them. Start with the word “TRY”. Repeat after me, “I will not use the word TRY for the next 30 days”.
I’m no rocket scientist but I have a feeling if you make this commitment it will be one small step towards improving your work life and your personal life!