Do you wait and hope it gets better?
Do you blame others?
Do you blame the current economic conditions on your business struggles?
Is your boss impossible and doesn’t listen?
Despite all your hard work does no one notice and acknowledge your contributions?
Are you underpaid, overworked, taken for granted?
Do people just not “get you”
If so you may be suffering from the age old syndrome…Victim Mentality
. The good news is the condition isn’t fatal but can be debilitating if not quickly treated. The cure…Ultimate Responsibility
. My wife and I are in constant debate about this one. Here’s an example:
I have a restaurant that is supervised by three Managers, a General Manager, and an Area Director. It’s a Friday night closing and the Assistant Manager on duty comes up short $500. One side of the argument says there is no way I can be held accountable for these lost funds right? The other side of the coin says, “Oh yeah, I am definitely responsible because I could have better systems or processes in place that would have prevented the loss of funds to begin with.” A stretch…..maybe?
I chose Ultimate Responsibility
because I am in control of the situation and I can set the course for resolution even in the case above. If I chose the Victim Mentality
and blame it on the other people in charge of the restaurant I lose all of my power. In life and business, you always have choices, you may not always like the choices you are given but you do have a choice. If your boss is impossible and doesn’t listen you have the choice to work with him/her and find a happy medium or you can always quit. I know, tough choices, but it is a choice, and you control it. That’s why the best leaders in the world chose Ultimate Responsibility.
wait from someone else to solve your problems, solve them yourself!
blame your declining sales on anything but your own business short comings. Go talk to your guests and give them an experience they have to come back for time and time again.
wait and hope it gets better, go do something about it.
worry about issues you can’t control, only work on things you can control.
- Call out
victims in your organization and challenge them to take full responsibility.
Have you ever fallen into the victim trap?